I am being doing some thinking about my “year of firsts.” What it is really all about is stepping outside your comfort zone. After a few steps outside your comfort zone you begin to notice something, your comfort zone is expanding!
Meeting and talking to new people is a major comfort zone expander. You stop worrying about what people are thinking about you and are just interested in finding out more about them, and in turn, about yourself. When I meet “Jenny” at Barnes & Noble I was nervous approaching her, but once I made the first step it became so easy. It was then all about finding out about her, and she was so interesting.
When I went to the Jewish “Shabbat”it was a little scary going into the synagogue and not knowing what to expect. When I got inside and started talking to people it was fantastic!
Even that silly Arm Knit A Blanket In An Hour took me out of my comfort zone. I won that challenge and expanded my comfort zone that day!
Today, I met my friend and went to work out. She is the one whose grandson is so interested in my “year of firsts“. She had decided to do a “year of firsts” too. She is starting hers on April 1. Today I took her to the Starbuck’s in Barnes and Noble for a Chai Tea Latte. Her first! She also said it was a first to go out with a friend for afternoon tea. She was excited about starting her firsts.
One of my other friends started doing firsts a couple of week ago. She is the friend who went to Sky Zone to jump with me. She was also excited when I told her about my Gratitude Journal, so I bought her one. She is recording her firsts in her Gratitude Journal. My son wanted a Gratitude Journal too, so I got him one.
This evening I took my dog for a walk and decided to walk to the country. I walked past the town limits and walked into the country. As I was walking past a cornfield I saw a high school boy hitting golf balls in the field. I wanted to hit golf balls. I really wanted to ask him if I could hit one. I chickened out. I didn’t want to freak him out that I was a crazy lady or something.
I stopped and talked to him. I asked him if he played golf for the high school team. He told me he was practicing to try to get good enough to play. He only started playing a couple of months ago. He was a very nice young man. I walked on down the road and found a creek. I took the dog and walked along the creek bed.
On the way back home I passed the young man again. I really want to hit golf balls in the field! I should have asked! If he is there the next time I walk by I am going to ask. Maybe I will put some golf balls in my pocket so I don’t have to use his. My comfort zone needs to continue expanding!
My Inspiration For Doing The Year of Firsts
As you may know I am doing a first every day this year. I read the book I Dare me by Lu Ann Cahn. Lu Ann has a website and has published a book talking about her year of firsts. I read the book and it motivated me to try a year of firsts. Lu Ann is at luanncahn.com and her blog has all her firsts. She determined that a first could be something you hadn’t done in 10 years. Here is my A Year of Firsts. Make sure to go see my guest post on Lu Ann’s blog and leave a comment.